Your Soulmate
Compiled by Hoda Nassef
Ah, soul mates! You finish each other's sentences and feel like you've known each other forever. But hold on. It's only the second date. How can you be sure the person sitting across the table is your soul mate and not just a fantasy date? Here are some signs that the two of you have the right stuff:
Ah, soul mates! You finish each other's sentences and feel like you've known each other forever. But hold on. It's only the second date. How can you be sure the person sitting across the table is your soul mate and not just a fantasy date? Here are some signs that the two of you have the right stuff:
1. You are intrigued.
"There was something about his smile..." or "I wanted to hug her when I saw her picture." If his Brad Pitt jaw or her bedroom eyes looked yummy in the ad but fell flat when you met for the first time, it's not looking good. But if you find your match appealing in the first 10 minutes on any level — looks, personality, demeanor — the flame typically only intensifies over time.
2. The info exchange is easy.
If he brings up stories about his past, whether good, bad or ugly, you know he's comfortable revealing more about himself. He wants to get to know you better. Your own stories start to roll off your tongue. So shoplifting and then lying about it to your mom in front of the security guard was stupid when you were 14, or it took you eight years to complete college. That's okay.
3. Faults come out in the open.
If you can reveal and even talk about your weaknesses, the relationship is deepening. If she's a klutz ("that bump came out of nowhere on the carpet") or can't keep from spilling or dropping things, and laughs about it, that's a good sign. More importantly, if you can admit your deeper faults ("I'm a workaholic") and get them out in the open, you both can be more accepting.
4. You're starting to feel very comfortable.
Can you just be yourself? Feeling at ease right away is a good sign and it only gets more comfy if your relationship smacks of a soul mate bond. Are moments of silence okay? You tell your loftiest dream or ambition. You share secrets.
5. You can be your weird self.
Singing off tune loudly in the car. Making a funny face. Calling yourself a rock star. Whether off the wall, quiet or fidgety, you find it easy to be your true self around your date. Couples in it for the long haul revel in the times when they can show their weird or goofy selves.
If your date doesn't seem to have the stuff of your ideal soul mate, then it's back to the drawing board to search for local singles!
H.N.
